Could You Be Content Being Single?
Written by Alan Bentley on November 12th, 2009 in Self Development.
For some women, especially those who have been used to a long relationship with someone, the thought of being suddenly alone fills them with horror. They don’t really know what they would do with themselves, they feel that their friends and acquaintances would look down on them and they fear a gaping hole in their lives. However, they should really be content being single as a whole new world of opportunities life ahead.
Don’t be tempted to stick in a destructive relationship just because you don’t like the idea of being alone. All this will do is lead to more of the same and create bigger problem in the future. What you need to do is rediscover who you are and go back to the days when you had a lot of plans for your future, dreams which probably lay unanswered. You can be content being single just by turning your mind back and reflecting on all of those plans and dreams for inspiration.
Remember that you don’t have to take into account the snide comments of people who you may have previously referred to as good friends. Really good friends are few and far between and they will understand you no matter what happens. The good thing about being single is that you don’t have to take everyone’s feelings into consideration as you are free to live your life as you want.
Don’t surround yourself with naysayers and other people who are single and worry too much about that. It is natural for you to feel some pangs of loneliness when you break up with somebody and the last thing you want is for those feelings to be reinforced by others. Enlarge your circle of friends.
When you change from the role of partner to single girl, you want to get out on the town with similar friends and really let your hear down. Go back to your earlier days and live as large as you can — you can be content being single, as you will see.
Have you noticed that some of your life plans have been on hold while you have been in a deadbeat relationship? What about those foreign travel plans you had, your fitness regime or even career aspirations? Bring all of these areas back into focus so that you are ready to welcome a new guy into your new life soon.
It’s perfectly acceptable to allocate a portion of your life to being single, especially if you have had a less than satisfying relationship recently. After a period of rejuvenation you will find that you are more than ready to look for that special guy once again.
Do you think that you are content being single? Don’t think too much about it is the secret. Throw yourself into your new life and marvel in your new freedom. Be active and focus on all the positive things ahead and you will understand that life is great after all.
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